two-faced?
Okay...I don't know if 5 months can be considered a hiatus, but I'm hoping to return to blogging with a vengeance. Apologies to the one person who possibly missed my posts.So here's my thought tonite...if a person adjusts their mindset and/or behaviour according to the company they are keeping, is that always two-faced? Or is it possibly just being sensitive to what different people consider to be appropriate? Two nights ago I watched a movie with a friend and quite enjoyed it. Swearing in movies doesn't generally bother me much, and neither does it ruffle the feathers of this particular friend. Fast forward to this evening. Hanging out with other friends (who happen to be much more sensitive to swearing), we decide to rent a movie and we end up with the same one because they were interested in it, it was available, and I didn't mind seeing it again. I saw the movie with very different eyes tonite. Every bit of language seemed to resonate in the room. By the end of the movie I almost felt the need to apologize...for having seen it and still recommending it, let alone enjoying it in the first place (gasp!). Had I done a quick mental replay of the movie before renting it the second time, I might have said, "Actually, there's a lot of language and other questionable stuff..." and moved on to another selection, even though I did enjoy it and would watch it again with less sensitive company. Is that two-faced?
A small example, but it's an issue I think about fairly often. While I am ultra-conservative on some things, on others I can be quite laid-back. So I act laid-back with those who think similarly, but when I'm around those who are more sensitive, I adjust. It's not an attempt to deceive or anything like that. But I don't want to be fake at all either.
It seems to be a matter of being real with myself, being real with others, and all the while trying not to offend. Is there a black and white answer or is it a matter of balance on a per situation basis?
posted by sibbie751 @ 1:21 a.m.
3 Comments:
Greetings from Surrey, BC! I really enjoyed your blog. My humble opinion is that being sensitive to what others deem appropriate is the answer. Wasn't it Paul who said I become all things to all people or something like that?
I'm learning that being "real" doesn't mean being inconsiderate. I'm the same way. When I'm in "conservative" company I simply say, "you know what..I know you want ot see the movie but honestly there's lots of swearing and some sex stuff in it. If that doesn't bother you then hey..its a great movie. If it does..then, its ok to pick another." I think you're ok! But hmmm just me speakin...here.
Thanks for your thoughts. BTW, I'm into the whole scrapbooking thing now and guess what I scrapbooked yesterday...our weekend at Fundy!
Awww: I look at my pics about twice a year..so at least twice a year I look at those photos too! It was a cool time...I love memories...they make me soft..lol.
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